It's Been A Minute.....But I'm BACK YA DIIIIIIIIIIIGG??

What's up to all my loyal readers! Please forgive me as I have been busy on the grind as well as finding love..hey, can't blame a girl for gettin' ish together right? I have been working on a few projects and trying to get this money. I also have found what I call my "beautiful blessing"...and he has been keeping a smile on my face. My lil man is still doing well and is SUPER smart and healthy, so i have absolutely NO complaints and I know that God is doing some work on me right now. It's a wondeful thing. I have noticed that I haven't been as aggresive and mean and impatient lately, which means that growing and maturity are playing a major role in my life. I think the new boo has a lot to do with that but I will save that for another post =0)

Well I'll be back later on with some really interesting post and more interactive discussions so look out for those!

Nita J

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..::Nita J's Designer Spotlight: Marc Jacobs::..

He is arguably the most influential fashion designer in the world—and definitely one of the most talked about. Marc Jacobs has a flair for drawing attention, whether the headlines are about the endlessly analyzed looks on his runway, his buff new gym body, or the ups and downs of his personal life.

Jacobs is, as many of these fashion chroniclers have noted, a bellwether, pointing audiences and buyers toward trends to come. A chameleon and a quick-change artist, he often mines a particular theme or style—mod, volume, layers, to name a few—only to discard it entirely the next season, just as the rest of the world is getting on board the train. According to Women's Wear Daily, he is one of the few designers "who can in successive seasons present collections that are diametrically opposed to one another yet look signature."

The Marc Jacobs stamp is that of unstudied cool, always with antiauthoritarian or outsider undertones—the irony is that between the various lines he produces under his own label and his work at Louis Vuitton, he is about as much of an insider authority as one man could be. Whatever his latest craze, the look is going to be pretty but not too polished, feminine but not too provocative, hip but never trying too hard. Having much-gossiped-about stars (from Lil' Kim to Victoria Beckham to his friend and muse Sofia Coppola) crowded into his front rows only keeps the headlines rolling off the presses.

A graduate of Parsons, the New York City native launched his line alongside his current business partner, Robert Duffy, in 1986 with the backing of a Japanese company. In 1989, Jacobs was appointed the creative director of Perry Ellis, but was notoriously fired in 1992 after presenting his then-reviled Grunge collection (now, naturally, hailed as a seminal nineties moment). Emerging as an indie darling over the next few years, Jacobs accepted the position of creative director at Louis Vuitton in 1997, in part to finance the Marc Jacobs business, which LVMH subsequently bought. Today, Marc Jacobs is a global brand that also produces menswear, accessories, childrenswear, home furnishings, jewelry, watches, and fragrances…and the Man of Contradictions has taken home seven major awards from the CFDA. ((http://www.style.com/))

Here is Marc Jacobs's Fall/Winter 2009/2010 Fashion Show. I absolutely LOVE THIS COLLECTION! I think Marc did a really good job choosing pieces that could be incorporated in a woman's everyday life from work gear to a night on the town. I can tell he truly believes in the idea that you can take one drab-like piece and make it fierce with the use of a statement color and/or fab accessory..Very chic and edgy at the same time..A good example that there is nothing wrong with taking risks with fashion. LOVE IT! He gets a ::::2-Snaps:::: !

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:::Daily Motivation for my Lovelies!!!!:::

:::Add value:::

There is always a way to create value. Success belongs to those who see the opportunities and take the actions that create new and useful value.

Whether the situation is gloomy or bright, there is always a way to add more positive value to it. With vision, commitment, focus, persistence and sustained effort, opportunity turns into achievement.

The world changes quickly, and tactics that once were successful may no longer be as effective. Yet there are new and exciting opportunities for achievement being created every day.

Real, solid value never goes out of style. There is always work to be done and there are always problems to be solved.

Where there are challenges to be overcome, there is opportunity. And the world is filled with challenges.

Decide to meet the challenges, to solve the problems, to offer real improvements, and to change life for the better. Get in the habit of adding value, and you'll be in the habit of creating success.

-- Ralph Marston

:::Nita's Daily Dance Break!:::

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"9 Tips in Life that Lead to Happiness"

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((This is not my work. It's something I found online and I thought was really good and useful information. The author is unknown.))

Are you truly happy? Do you even know what it means to be happy and what it takes to achieve happiness? These are important questions for anyone who is seeking happiness to ask themselves. I live my life to maintain my own happiness while trying my best to not cause unhappiness to anyone else. If you want to be happy you need to understand that you can be happy and that you should be happy. Many people make the mistake of believing that they don’t deserve happiness and accept their unhappy state as their destiny. The truth of the matter is that happiness, like anything else in life, needs to be nurtured. The following are a few tips that I follow to create happiness in my life.

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1) Understand what it is that will make you happy. Everyone has unique requirements for attaining happiness and what makes one person happy may be very different from what makes someone else happy. Revel in your individuality and do not worry about whether or not your desires are comparable to those of your peers.

2) Make a plan for attaining goals that you believe will make you happy. Your mood will very likely increase as your pursue your goal because you will feel better about yourself for going after something you value.

3) Surround yourself with happy people. It is easy to begin to think negatively when you are surrounded by people who think that way. Conversely, if you are around people who are happy their emotional state will be infectious.

4) When something goes wrong try to figure out a solution instead of wallowing in self pity. Truly happy people don’t allow set backs to affect their mood because they know that with a little thought they can turn the circumstances back to their favor.

5) Spend a few minutes each day thinking about the things that make you happy. These few minutes will give you the opportunity to focus on the positive things in your life and will lead you to continued happiness.

6) It’s also important to take some time each day to do something nice for yourself. Whether you treat yourself to lunch, take a long, relaxing bath or simply spend a few extra minutes on your appearance you will be subconsciously putting yourself in a better mood.

7) Finding the humor in situations can also lead to happiness. While there are times that require you to be serious, when it is appropriate, find a way to make light of a situation that would otherwise make you unhappy.

8) Maintaining your health is another way to achieve happiness. Being overweight or not eating nutritious foods can have a negative effect on your mood. Additionally, exercise has been known to release endorphins that give you a feeling of happiness.

9) Finally, it is important to understand that you deserve happiness. Those who believe that they are not worthy of happiness may subconsciously sabotage their efforts to achieve happiness. If necessary, tell yourself each day that you deserve to be happy and remind yourself what steps you will take to achieve the happiness you desire.

Happiness is hard to define but most people are aware of whether they are happy or not. Many people believe that happiness is a form of luck and that some people are destined to be happy while others are destined to be unhappy. I try to incorporate the tips above into my life and have had great success in achieving happiness. The tips in this article are small but meaningful steps that you can take each day to lead you to true happiness.

...::::Daily Motivation~ "Creating Your Life":::::....

This is it. This is the moment when success happens.

This is the moment when you can choose to either follow your dreams or to sabotage them. This is when you select and execute the specific actions that create the reality of your life.

Achievement is not some far off, future concept. Achievement is built from what you do now.

You will not ever get anything done if you keep scheduling it for someday. What you do with now is what truly makes a difference in your life.

Remember now, and again and again, that this is where your consequences are determined. This is when you put real life and substance into your dreams.

Enjoy this moment in all its fullness, and remember. You are creating your life right now.

-- Ralph Marston

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::::Daily Motivation:::::"The Beautiful Struggle":::::::::

To truly be successful in life's endeavors one has to be accepting and welcoming of all challenges.

The beauty in living life and obtaining happiness is having the satifaction that you are fully capable of overcoming obstacles and passing life's tests.

A struggle that is presented to you now is only preparing you for later challenges down the road so that you will be fully equipped and ready to deal with it head on.

Appreciate your adversities, love your stuggle, and embrace your obstacles, however do not let them restrain you.

Struggle now...Succeed later...

-Marnita Joy Wiggins

::::Good Morning Lovelies:::Daily Motivation::::Breathe it!:::::

~*~What it takes~*~

Don't let the difficulties get you down. Let them get you going.

Seize each opportunity to grow stronger and more purposeful. Discover again and again how good it feels to be confident and effective.

The challenges may indeed be great. With your dynamic resourcefulness, your creativity, your focus and persistence, you are greater than any challenge.

You can make a difference now. You can keep doing so for as long as necessary, until your goal is reached.

Feel the unshakable confidence that comes from successfully navigating through a difficult situation. Feel the satisfaction of knowing that you've lifted the world higher through your efforts.

You have what it takes to do what you must. This is your moment to truly shine.

-- Ralph Marston

The Ten Women Rules ((WARNING: EXPLICIT LANGUAGE!!))

This is something that I saw on the net..a good girlfriend of mine found it and shared it with me..and to be honest I think it contains UBER REALNESS lol. LOVE IT!! it was written by smart brotha..it's nice to see where the fellas are coming from sometimes and I'm definitely always opened to hearing new opinions..So here goes..and feel free to comment at the end of the post..I love good debates!

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The Ten Women Rules

Rule #1 Be Confident Confidence is key.

I met a girl who was a pretty girl and is the dream of a million men, but because her self-esteem is shot she gets fucked over weekly because she banks on her beauty and her pussy to keep a man yet she is “single” every other week.

Rule #2 Stay maintained to be an option

Always look great, whatever your income. It is mandatory to have your hair and nails done as a grown woman…no excuses. I don’t give a damn if it’s not in the budget. If you stop eating out then it will be in the budget. Please don't do it yourself...we can tell. You have the advantage, you are the woman. Look your best as you could meet a potential anywhere at any time. Funny thing about women is you all aren’t allowed to have bad days in a man’s eyes. Try and stay in shape and involve some fitness regime at a gym or your home. However much you hate it, he loves your body as much as your mind. You have to be hot all the time. When your single you need to look good when you run to the store or going to get gas. Not saying you have to have on make-up. I’m just saying if you have to put on a hat because of a bad hair day make sure it’s a cute hat. I

Rule #3 Fuck at your own risk

The pussy is all you got. Every dude that meets you and wants to engage in getting to know you has one thing on his mind…..pussy. It’s your job to mend the sexual attraction to mental attraction then you lock his ass in. I’m sure at this point you’re thinking I should have used a better word for it, but that’s the word men have come to love and use. Never ever sleep with a guy until he has fallen for you. Sex early in your dating game plan will ruin everything. Now if your grown and horny and you just want to fuck then put it in his life, but just know that’s just what it is. If you don’t have history with him then keep your pussy. This is the #1 killer of dating. Your friend’s circumstances are not yours. Just because she fucked on the first night and they are still together don't mean that shit will work for you. Everything is all good til’ sex gets involved. After sex they start charging you up, stalking your facebook page, sitting outside your house when you get home from the club, and coming to your house drunk late at night with their friends because you didn’t answer your phone. I’m sorry I had a flashback.

Rule #4 Know the signs

If any man shows the slightest signs of possessiveness or insecurity run like the wind. Women refuse to see signs in the beginning because you just so want this dude to be the one. If he ain’t then dammit he ain’t. You know he was a little off when you met him. Everybody you meet will have flaws. The key is to find someone with flaws you can deal with. I can deal with a girl that talks a lot, but I cannot deal with a girl that fucks a lot. And when I say fucks a lot I mean she fucks everybody but me. That’s a flaw I can’t deal with.

Rule #5 Information

Never reveal too much information. An enigmatic woman keeps us thinking. Keep dates brief but your men interested. Less is always more. Never ever talk about previous boyfriends and particularly their prowess in the bedroom. The number of ex boyfriends is your business only. And DO NOT tell him how many dudes you had sex with or the last dude you had sex with. Men use that to gauge a timeframe that they think they can hit that ass. Pretty much keep the convo in general. And keep your drinking to a minimal. Give ya’ll asses two margaritas and you start telling your life story. Honestly, he might be nodding and grinning, but he really doesn’t give a damn.

Rule #6 Availability

Never be too available when he wants you to be. Never be at the end of a phone when he calls and always let him leave a message or two first before replying. Don’t be so damn eager all the time. Men like to be on the chase for a minute. We like it when ya’ll act funny. There is no fun in a game that can be beat easily. If he stops pursuing then he really isn’t worth pursuing. Now if the case is you’re scheduling dates and standing him up or just plain bullshittin’ on your end then its your bad and not his.

Rule #7 Make him spend Make him spend money.

Every time he calls you tryin’ to kick it make his ass take you somewhere. A man’s love is his money and a man’s money is his life. If he takes you out and his intention is just to fuck then you will know when he stops tryin’ to take you out because he has not gotten a return on the money he spent. Now if he is genuine he will take you out and not trip because sex is not his motive. Me personally I like to wait til’ she wants me to have it. The sex is so much better. I’m sorry…..that was T.M.I.

Rule #8 Game Life Game has a lifeline.

Give it a chance to let the game run out. Dudes can only try to impress and run game for so long. After a while his true self shows. Most of ya’ll fuck before the game runs out so when he show himself your disappointed, but it’s your fault not his. Most of ya’ll know these dudes are full of shit from jump. Take responsibility for choosing to be an idiot in hopes of finding love. This shit ain’t a movie. Pretty Woman never happened in real life. Be smart and let the game run out.

Rule #9 Return Policy

Funny thing about men is that we would love to come back around and hit that ass once more for old time sake. Don't fool with him if he just got out of a relationship. It’s called "Rebound Pussy". He gon act like he wants to come back around and do right by you. 99.8% of the time he is lying his ass off. He is emotional and lonely and he wants to be held (Yeah we get weak like that too). The moment something new comes around he gone again. Let him take you out and you pledge his ass. Treat that nigga like he brand new. He gon leave as easy as you let him back in if you don’t pledge him. Make sure your fly when ya’ll go out and make sure you get on your phone and cut the date short. He is gonna assume you left him to see another dude and he ain’t gon sleep right all night. And if it was one of them 2-7+ year relationships you might as well let it go. If he don’t love you by now and ain’t tried to marry you that’s because he not. Don’t waste your time.

Rule # 10 Demand he does you a certain way

You can’t allow yourself to get fucked over. If you don’t hold some kind of standard for yourself then he is gonna set a standard for you and that is never good. Never call or chase a guy. And if he says he been busy that’s a bunch of bullshit. That means your not wassup anymore. Nobody is that busy. Barack Obama has time to love his wife and he is fixing a fucked up economy of a nation. If he doesn't call he is either not interested or interested in somebody else.

I’m sure I lost my playa’s card for this one. iHustleNetwork.com stand up…lets go!

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WOW he went IN...i can dig it...what's ya thoughts lovelies??

..::Daily Motivation People..Get into it...::..

Precious time

There are only two dozen hours in this beautiful day. Do you wish to waste any of them on anger or spite or resentment or despair?

Your time is precious and filled with so many valuable possibilities. Choose to spend that time accordingly, ever mindful of its positive potential.

The most highly accomplished people in the world have exactly the same number of hours in this day as you do. Feel the very real opportunity, and make it count.

Precious time is yours, right here, right now. Put your absolute best into it again and again as it flows through you.

Let your highest purpose leave its mark on each moment. The joys you create continue to accumulate, and never stop shining.

-- Ralph Marston

~*~Decepticon~*~

Good morning Ladies and Gents..Good day to you..This post will serve as both my Daily Motivation and a "just because" post.

I woke up today in a fabulous mood but something was slightly disturbing my spirit so I decided to blog about it, get it out and let it go, so I can continue to basque in the ambience that is my Good Morning, lol!

I am starting to realize that as I get older and a little more experienced in life, it's so much easier to point out who is meant to and not meant to be in my life. I think I am meeting a lot of people who are phony and/or negative and don't do anything to contribute to the progression of my life. They smile and laugh in your face but are secretly praying for your downfall so that they will have the upper hand...I call these ignorant individuals "decepticons". There individuals can be "friends", associates, family members, boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands and wives...anyone who is in your life and does not have your best interest at heart but acts as if they do..

These people, I think, have underlying self-esteem and security issues and are only happy when they are seemingly doing better than people around them, so instead of doing things to pick up those around them , thet shoot them down, whether it's verbally and through indirect actions. They have no intentions of being your "friend" or supporting any kind of endeavor your are involved in if it doesn't pertain to them.

So lovelies as you go through your normal everyday lives, watch closely who you come in contact with..if you feel anything but positive energy when you surround yourself with that person or person(s) then you need to do an about face, sprint the other way and give that Decepticon the Heave-Ho!!!! lol

That is all..Smooches!!

..:::Asking 2 Much? SO WHAT!:::...

After careful examination and consideration and dating and meeting new guys and not feeling a spark and this and that..I decided to make a list of AAAAAAAAALLL of the qualities I look for in a man. Now, I know what you're thinkin'..another chick makin' one of "those lists"..but for real..I'm not only doing it in hopes to find the right guy, I'm doin' this to see if maybe I'm asking waaay to much or expecting waaaay too much when seeking a significant other...Sometimes I think I am BUT at the same time, I think it's very, very necessary ..I am a firm believer that you have to truly know what you want and not to be content until you find it..I WILL NOT settle and I encourage everyone to consider that as well...

So here goes..and this list is in no particular order of importance and I probably will be adding to it all the time lol...

1) Exudes positive energy
2) Can have an intellectual convo w/ me (because sometimes I can get real deep..u gotta hang with me)
3) Integrity
4) Has a mind of his own
5) Loyal
6) Financially Stable (BUT trust if I rock w/ you and you're going through rough times, i gotchu..)
7) Honest
8) Creative with the gifts (doesn't have to be anything big, I love the little things)
9) Can appreciate a strong-minded women
10) EXTREMELY confident!!!!!
11) Doesn't mind expressing his emotions and showing he cares
12) Street Smarts/Corporate Smarts/Common Smarts
13) Can speak proper English
14) Romantic
15) A gentleman
16) Sense of Humor
17) Can put it down in the bedroom (has to want it as much as I do..if not it's not gonna work LOL)
18) Has goals and is actually WORKING toward them..it's one thing to have a goal, it's another to really chase after what you want..
19) Family-Oriented
20) Respects women
21) My family must like him (after all, they know me best)
22) a good role model, I have a son..can't be bringing just anybody around him..
23) Affectionate
24) Not insecure!!!!
25) Supportive of his lady
26) Inquisitive
27) Intelligent
28) Attractive
28) Respectful
29) Has Fashion Sense
30) Adventurous
31) Generous
32) Has a Big Heart (because I do)
33) Understands I need my space sometimes
34) Can put up with my attitude LOL!
35) Not selfish
36) ALWAYS SMELLS GOOD (i have a thing for men and good smelling cologne)
37) Goes with his heart, not what others tell him
38) REAL Music Lover
39) Cultured
40) Doesn't let his pride stand in the way of his heart
41) Doesn't mind his lady taking the lead sometimes
42) Spontaneous
43) Not afraid to disagree with me sometimes
44) NO WEAK MEN!

...::R.I.P. Mr. Patrick Swayze::...

Actor Patrick Swayze died today after a 20-month battle with pancreatic cancer his publicist confirmed to ABC News. He was 57.

"Patrick Swayze passed away peacefully today with family at his side after facing the challenges of his illness for the last 20 months," his publicist, Annett Wolf, said in a statement released Monday evening.

Patrick Swayze was famous for his great acting and dancing skills he displayed in movies such as "Ghost" and "Dirty Dancing" which is one of my fave movies!

Please enjoy the ending scene of "Dirty Dancing"...Rest in Peace Mr. Swayze...

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~*~Top of the Mornin' 2 ya! Daily Motivation People!~*~

~*~Get it behind you~*~

When there's something you must do, that you don't want to do, what's the best approach? Though it is certainly counter intuitive, the best approach is to enthusiastically jump in and get it done.

It doesn't serve any useful purpose to focus on how much you detest the task. That just delays the completion and makes you feel even worse.

So just for a little while, for your own benefit, pretend that you're thoroughly enjoying it. Remind yourself that the more you enjoy it, the quicker and more effectively you'll get it done.

In fact, as you make swift progress, you might actually find yourself really, truly enjoying it. After all, you'll definitely feel great when you have it done.

Choose not to needlessly punish yourself with resentment. Instead, reward yourself with discipline, focus and achievement.

Select a positive, powerful attitude about the task at hand. Before you know it, you'll have it behind you.

-- Ralph Marston

~*~Nita J Philosophy: Healthly Loneliness~Learning and Surviving~*~

So most of you know that I have been single for a little over 2 years after being in unhealthy relationships as well as a broken-off engagement. These last 2 years have been rocky but as I look back on what I have gone through, I am happy and grateful for the lessons I have learned. A good lesson I am learning to except is an idea I like to call "Healthy Loneliness".

I think that a lot of people, men and women, hate the idea of being alone. So much that we tend to put ourselves in unhealthy relationships and situations to disguise the fact that we are lacking what we truly need for ourselves emotionally and even spiritually. Some of us surround ourselves with not-so-good "friends", some of us seek sexual-only relationships for fear of getting emotionally attached and hurt, and some of us just settle for the first man or woman that comes along and enter a relationship just so we don't call ourselves lonely. It's sad but true, and what's even sadder is that sometimes we don't even realize it.

I have always been a true believer that when it comes to love and heartfelt emotion, we as humans react with 3 parts...our mind, our heart and our soul. When all 3 components act in unison, you know that the situation you are in is beautiful, God-sent and meant to be. But what about when they don't mesh?

For instance...you meet a guy..he's nice you have a good time...you're mind says "ok, he's cool", you're heart, being the risk-taker of the 3 says "try it, let's see what happens.." ..but something is your spirit says "i don't know about this one boo boo"...that's your soul telling you that possibly this isn't right..and something is better out there...maybe even your soul mate. Most of the time you're not spiritually and emotionally in tune with yourself, so you won't hear your soul at all, so you miss out on this little warning and just run with it...for fear of being lonely or to fill a void in your life.

Personally I have learned that this period of loneliness for me has been a wonderful experience because as a person I have grown so, so much. I am more in tune with "my star player" and I know what to and what NOT to accept from someone. I am determined not to settle for just anyone, but for someone who speaks to all my key components; mind, heart and soul..and then even my body..but that comes afterwards and is a whole 'nother story. One should seek to reach maximum connection on ALL levels when seeking to replace loneliness with a significant other...not make the mistake of "well...he's cool but i really wish he would be like this..but i don't wanna be alone, so I'll stay" or "well she is really pretty...but i need a women to be this way toward me and she won't..oh well I guess I'll stick around"...

Never settle, my lovelies...you are setting yourself up for spiritual and emotional failure..real talk. You may not see it now or in the near future..but hopefully you will see it. You need to understand that you are a work of art, a masterpiece and you deserve exactly what you THINK you deserve and absolutely nothing less. If you don't understand that then you are not finished growing personally and you should take advantage of that lonely time and build yourself up.. You are no good to your significant other if you are not done analyzing yourself and your own life. You CANNOT TRULY AND UNCONDITIONALLY LOVE SOMEONE IF YOU DON'T LOVE YOURSELF...Therefore you cannot BE in love....which is a whole 'nother level of Love that you won't truly feel or understand..And if you're not truly connected to the point where you can't even begin to GET TO the "In Love" state..then it's time for you to re-evaluate some things.. When you settle for just anything, remember you are closing off that space that's meant for your soul-mate...

I will end this post with a video I saw recently by B.Scott which really touched my soul and was the inspiration for my post!

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..::Buenas Dias Lovelies! Daily Motivation!::..

~*~In the living~*~

The answer to your problems is not in some quick solution. The answer is in the living of your life in a positive, meaningful way.

The joy you seek is not in some particular, momentary pleasure or acquisition. The joy is in the living of the precious moments of your life as they come.

The wisdom you desire is not in some sudden, brilliant insight or revelation. The wisdom is in the living and the learning, in the triumphs and disappointments, in the pain and the love.

The value of life is not in any single possession or experience or feeling. The value of life is in the living.

So do not grasp or worry or boast or envy or waste your time trying to second-guess life. Simply live this now moment with all the love and energy and gratitude and awareness you can give.

Life is in the living. And here on this very day is your golden opportunity to fully taste the rich abundance.

-- Ralph Marston

..::Happy Saturday Lovelies! Daily Motivation!::..

~*~Welcome Criticism~*~

When you are sincere in your efforts, you have nothing to fear from criticism. For when you are sincere, criticism can make you stronger and more effective.

Listen eagerly to those who disagree with you. Seek to genuinely understand their perspectives.
Don't get caught up in the need to prove you are right. Focus instead on more fully understanding what is true, what is workable, and what is best for everyone.

The willingness to be open to criticism is one of the surest signs that you're on a successful and authentic path. If you feel the need to avoid or evade or ignore your critics, it may well be time to re-evaluate your efforts.

Intelligently responding to the doubts of others will reduce your own doubts and help your confidence grow. From the criticism, you can gain much valuable and useful information.

Welcome the criticism, and respond with sincere gratitude. Being challenged is one of the most enriching experiences you can have.

-- Ralph Marston

:::Nita J's Designer Spotlight: Zac Posen:::

Zac Posen is one of Manhattan's most popular boys-about-town—and the girls-about-town flock to him for sultry, body-hugging, thirties- and forties-inflected party frocks. The old-Hollywood glamour of his evening looks makes them a natural choice for pretty young nominees on the Other Coast, too: Natalie Portman, Gwyneth Paltrow, and Beyoncé have all made the trip down the red carpet in a Posen showstopper.

With all this, it's easy to forget that Posen isn't some old hand: He was born in 1980. But he is a native New Yorker and has benefited from the support of his sophisticated Soho family (his father is a painter, his mother—now the company chairman—is a corporate attorney, and his sister, Alexandra, is his creative director). Posen won a coveted internship at the Metropolitan Museum of Art's Costume Institute (where he got a good look at the dazzling bias work of Madame Vionnet), and then headed to London to study at Central Saint Martins. In typically precocious fashion, a dress he made there was chosen to become part of the permanent collection at the Victoria and Albert Museum.

Posen returned to New York in 2001 and almost immediately was making himself known at Gen Art's Fresh Faces show. Offers from LVMH and the Gucci Group followed, but with equally typical bravado, Posen ignored them and launched his own label. Three years later he received the Swarovski-Perry Ellis Award for Womenswear from the CFDA, and the rest, it would seem, is party-dress history. (http://www.style.com/)

Check out Zac's Fall 2009 Line...I love his eye for women's fashion..the line is very chic, classic and flirty with lots of sophistication! Piano's on the catwalk Zac?!?! FIERCE & FAB-O!!!! MeLuvzzzz....

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The "Death" of Hip Hip by David Drake

This is an EXTREMELY good article I found on the "death" of Hip Hop.

Personally I don't think that Hip Hop is dead, but rather it has either evolved with the times and situations of the artists or it goes unheard because it is drowned out by the "bull-ish-commercial-wack-catchy-anyone can get a deal-garbage over hot beat" type of "music"..Hip Hop is an art and should most definitely be kept alive and preserved...

Click on the pic for the article..

..::Good Day Lovelies! Daily Motivation!::..

~*~Make life great~*~

There are endless ways to become more efficient, yet there is no way to shortcut this fundamental fact. You cannot possibly get more from life than what you put into it.

You can be very clever and think up all sorts of ways to cheat. What you end up doing, though, is cheating yourself most of all.

If you run or hide from the challenges, life's greatest rewards will never find you. When you avoid the difficulties, you also miss out on the fulfillment.

For it is in making a difference that you make a life. It is by working through the challenges that you build real and meaningful value.

Your success is up to you. Think about that, and you'll see that you really wouldn't want it any other way.

Accept that life can be difficult at times. It is through that acceptance that you are truly able to make life great.

-- Ralph Marston

..::Quick Dose of ChocolateEyeCandy::.. My Baby-Daddy Common

For those who don't know, this is my husband Common...his ol' fine ass..lol!! If you look anything like this, have a good job, smells good, dresses like him, has a car and is single..CALL MEEEEEEE lol...i'm so smitten geeeeeeeezzz...

...::Good Morning Lovelies! Daily Motivation!::..

..::Immediate action::..

When you decide to do it, begin to do it. Give substance to your commitment by acting on it right away.
Intention is powerful, and yet there's something your intention must have in order to survive. That something is real, solid action.
Make your choice, and then immediately give power to it by taking the first step toward it. There is always something you can do right away.
When you act, you seal the commitment. When you act, you create momentum.
The way to make sure you stay in motion is to get yourself in motion right away. When the reason for your decision is still fresh in your mind, give power to that decision by acting on it.
Accomplishment occurs when you go beyond merely thinking about it.

Get up, get going, get moving and you will indeed get it done.

-- Ralph Marston

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What idiot at B.E.T. thought it was cool to let Frankie and Neffie get TV time?

I had already given up on B.E.T. a long time ago..when I started to notice that they were trying so hard to be like MTV that they we're losing focus of what the station was really about. I have now lost all respect. How do you justify giving Frankie and Neffie there own show???

After watching Keisha Cole's show and seeing the pain and tragedy that this family had endured, I would think that time in the spotlight would be the last thing this family needed. They obviously need serious SERIOUS SERIOUS therapy..and not the on camera bull-ish that we saw...they need HELP!

Now Neffie looks like she has an ounce of sense now but I mean Frankie? I just think it's wrong that B.E.T. is capitalizing off of her radical behavior and calling it entertainment. Don't put her in the spotlight for her crackish behavior to be ridiculed...get her some HELP! THEN we can talk TV time...I'm sorry but that station reallu makes me mad..geeeeeeezzzz...

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Ree Ree's Vogue Italia Spread..Sneak Peak!

Rihanna is killin' it in this spread for Vogue Italia. I actually think this is kinda hot, a good mix of fashion, art and a little scariness...it's very Grace Jones-esque...me likey! Fierce and FAB-O!

BTW..

Whatever happened to Grace Jones anyway? lol

BP3...I'm Diggin' It! BUY THE ALBUM..9/11!!!

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So we all know that Jay's Blueprint 3 has leaked...so sad, but I know as a LOYAL supporter of good music I will be coppin' 3 copies like I always do..1 for the crib, 1 for the whip and 1 more just in case something happens to either one of them...WE GOTCHU JAY!!!!

But still..here is one of my fave tracks on the album lol..enjoy! AND STOP BOOTLEGGIN"!! But if you do STILL GET YA 3 COPIES!!!!

uuuuuuuumm WTF Was She Thinkin' and Who is her Stylist???

Ok lovelies...I am at a loss for words...well not really! lol...Our lil diva from The Real Housewives of Atlanta, Sheree steps out for the premier of the drama-filled reality show and shows up like this...Have ya'll seen this????

...Ok, FIRST OF ALL...I KNOW she couldn't have paid for this monstrosity because my 3 year old could have done this with some Jam (w/ the green top lol) and Elmer's Glue..like seriously..what statement are you trying to make here Rey Rey? You have a clothing line coming out, let's be more careful about the image you give off...cuz this is a HOT MESS lol! I was even watching the Wendy Williams show and she was on and said "Well, it was cute from the side.."... no boo-boo..we have the side view..and it's as bad as the rest of it, LOL! I hope this isn't a reflection of that new line cuz if it is....woooooow lol....Sorry you don't get the Nita J seal of approval for this one..... No Sir-eeeeeee...

B. Scott Top Five Reasons You Know He Doesn't Care About You! (TRUE SHYT)

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Ladies, Ladies, Ladies...PLEASE take heed to what he is saying..OMG it's SO true lol!

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Dear Diary...

So I went to bed in a funk and woke up in an even bigger one..life really has a way to throw some serious obstacles at you....but hey...that's life.

One of my biggest fears is failure and when I feel like something is about to slow me down and fukk up my flow, I take a detour from my regular route. I try to figure out how to re-work what I go going on so that failure is not an option..I have always been like that..always having a Plan B, C, D, E, and F..that's how you gotta do it sometimes..But last night, I'm not sure what happened...I got hit with an obstacle and before I went to the drawing board to start my plan B, I cried...and just said "Damn, I'm tired of these fukkin' detours...."

..Sometimes your path is not going to be straight and to the point, and you have to realize that whether you like it or not, speed bumps and potholes do exist...You are going to have to hop off that path real quick, analyze it, and re-evaluate what you got going on so that later on down the road, you won't have to be detoured, you'll be able to just hop over the obstacles...

So that's what I'm doing today lovelies...working out my Plan B through Plan Q lol...but you know what? I'm STILL going to remain positive and flash my pearly whites and my 1 dimple..because crying and complaining about it will do nothing but interfere with progression...

I will end this post with this:

"Keep going, Keep moving. We must continue to do the right thing day in and day out. Some seasons it will feel like nothing is moving for us. But remember, we must learn to trust the process, not our feelings." -Rev Run

Smooches!

Nita J's "D.T.T.M.S.J." Campaign (Death to the Male Skinny Jean)

If you follow me on Twitter (http://www.twitter.com/Nita2Nyce) you already know that I am EXTREMELY adamant about the banning of males wearing skinny jeans! OMG I HATE THAT..now before the more tailored-styled men get upset, there is a BIG difference between skinny jeans and fitted jeans..you good with me if you wear the fitteds..i personally prefer it since baggy pants went out with Finger Waves lol!

This is acceptable ...

To me skinny jeans are an ABOMINATION of fashion and you should be shot for wearing them..and you MOST DEFINITELY need not look my way to holla with them summbytches on LOL...Lets examine this new male skinny jean "trend" shall we ((uuuuugghh that hurt me to type "trend" next to that))



ARE YOU FUKKIN' KIDDIN' MEEEEEEEE??? I don't care what ya'll say but this shyt is effin' ridiculous...like seriously....where do the balls go?? uuuuuugh I get mad when I see grown men wearing this mess..especially if they're like 6'5 290 lbs lol #wheretheydothatat ?? LOL!



In Conclusion...PLEEEEEEZE do NOT do this to yourself! ......That is all...

You're Not Going to "KRUSH GROOVE"??? #wheretheydothatat and #killyaselfslow

BIG SHOUT OUT to my buddy Cali..he's like my FAVE go-getter..if you're in the 7-cites area of VA this Labor Day weekend (or Richmond or DC for that matter)...YOU NEED TO BE AT THIS SHINDIG!! Like seriously...if you go anywhere else you're gonna have a wack time cuz everyone will be at this event lol! So Get EXTRA KRISPY and SUPER WAVY and BE HERE...and ya girl might even slyde thru and make an appearance..that should be enough reason for you to go LOL!!

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You Bettah Get it Ree Ree!

Ok so I was browsing the 'net to find some fashion pics to analyze...and this is what I found! Ree Ree is killin' it! This pic stuck out to me because if any of ya'll know me..this is SO something I would rock LOL!! All black is always chic no matter the season, but if you are going to do an all black ensemble I would suggest using a statement piece to set off the look.. i.e. Her shoes which I think are FAB-O! Brightly colored nails and lip color make this outfit AND her personality POP and me likey... Nita J approved...Kudos to Ree Ree's stylist!

Yooooooooo...What's gooooodyyyyyy....

Big warm welcome and hugs to all my lovelies..SO glad you decided to grace my blog with your presence...This should be a fun and exciting ride...my mind moves a mile a second sometimes..so I'm giving you a mental tour through this here blog..

My blog will be pretty sporadic in nature meaning I talk about whatever is on my mind..but will be focused on relationships, fashion, advice (i give good/funny advice lol), money, events, and music.

Just want to put a little disclosure out there before I proceed...to give you what you need..ya digg??

Yo...DO NOT...I repeat..DO NOT take any of what I say personally..unless, that is, if I personally mention ya name..I'm using this blog as a way of mentally and emotionally expressing myself through the art of my everyday vernacular and if you feel some type of way about it...this is what you do...

Step 1: Take control of you mouse or that little touch pad thingy on ya laptop..
Step 2: Move the cursor to that little red X in the top right hand corner of this screen...
Step 3: Click it..
Step 4: STFU and get over yourself! LOL!!

Nah but seriously though, everything I say is all my opinion, most of which is based off of well known fact or my own life experiences and I obviously don't expect everyone to agree with me..But hey..still got love for you! Feel free to email me with any comments you may have missnitaj@gmail.com or you may comment here..

Smooches Lovelies! BRB!